"I Shall be single NOMORE!" part Deciding a Life partner

The second part..here we goes.. :)

This deciding part is really interesting. The first thing we should know about before deciding a life partner is Zealousness and Spiritual. This two type of person in Church is totally different. What the different? Zealousness is a type of person who enthusiast, fire up, passionate devotion to or interest in a cause or subject. But Spiritual person is the one who is filled with Holy Spirit lead by Holy Spirit. Doesn't mean also the one who is passionate in ministry will be good husband, wife or life partner. To admire someone in ministry is good if just admire. And the feeling grow from that admiring have to examined and tested with several perspective or view. Thus, Pr. Prince suggest few things we can consider to tested if the person is the one we flexible with, or spiritual to us.

To determine spiritual guy we can refer to Prov 20:6...Who can find a faithful man... Proverbs suggest to us that the faithful man is the one girl or women should consider of. But faithful in what? In original word of Hebrew this word actually "Imun" mean Faith and trustworthy. Proverb suggest to us that girls should look for the "Imun" person.

1. The guy have to be faithful to his finance. Why finance? Girls (though i am a guy here, but this is a sharing from Pr Prince and want to share to you all), check deeper to the guy finance. Check if he always owing, if he simple spend his money, if he purchase things more than his salary. If he does, be careful. you might be the one who is supporting him after marriage. If we want to survive and enjoy happy marriage life, before that check the guy first. But REMEMBER. Though the guy is not rich, doesn't mean he is not good in handling finance. Doesn't meant the person rich is also good in handling finance too. Though they not rich, but when the have a stable work, they will be able to handle biggest finance and can become rich too. As long as they know how to handle their finance.

2. Loyalty to Ministry. Why loyalty? In ministry, check if the guys is faithful to his ministry, or responsible to it. If he did not responsible to his ministry, he might also not responsible to his family life. If the person truly spiritual not zealous to ministry, the best way to see is how he treat his parent. How he treat his friends, how he act in workplace and how his devotion life.

3. Kindness/Grace. The kind guy is the guy who knows how to forgive and how to react in time of failure or imperfection. The Christian guy should love with agape love, love that forgive and know how to forgive when girls make mistakes. By examining this first, for sure now you can decide what type of guy you want and love you more. Don't just simple look by his involvement in ministry, that maybe he is either zealous or spiritual.

4. Girl also have to make sure that the guy is teachable. Teachable in everything. This wil create a situation where the couple will learn to tolerate with one another if the are teachable.

Now for guy to find a girl. We refer to Proverbs 19:14...wise wife... in Hebrew wise is "Saka" mean wisdom, wisdom by meditating the word of God. That is the wise wife. To look for the wise wife, there is few things need to consider or check on the girl too to determine the future wife from the girl we like is "Saka" or not.

1. Prudent - mean the girl should have the "Saka". "Saka" here mean the practical wisdom. Practical wisdom is the wisdom which can encourage the husband later about anything. She can give advice to man, can encourage and suggestion to man. This prudent women will very gentle and supportive. But again, though the girl is less prudent, don't worry. She nor prudent enough or "saka" enough, take her. Guide her and teach her. She will after that, living a marriage life will grow to very prudent wife and "saka" women.

2. Virtuous girls conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright. This refer to the attitude of the girl. If the girl is not virtuous, we may have trouble in our marriage life. We can refer this to Prov 21:10. The reason we say this is that the christian spouse will be a happy spouse, less arguing and divorce. This talk about character too. Is the girl teachable or not. If this girl is not teachable, than in marriage life, we will have problem with this type of girl. But if the girl is teachable, though it is less teachable, don't worry. They still can be taught.

3. Gracious is same like how girls looking for kind and graceful girl. This refer to how gracious that women will be when the husband make mistakes.

4. Don't ever look base on man's hormone. A lot of cases when guy at the first sight saying they attracted to the girl. They attract because of the body, the beauties (outside) and friend's persuade them. Hormone only temporary, but base on the real fact or inside of the person is lasting. If we decide base to hormone, that is not a love. When that love fade, it could be a chance you leave them.

How to find that someone?

First, don't ever find someone base on others measurement. Sometime our decision effected by friends measurement and comments or persuasion. We may also seek advice from parent. Ask them their opinion about the guy or the girl if they is teachable or not.

Well, Abraham's servant went to the well of water and sit there. The young lady come and pour him the water. Now, we refer well here as place where people gather and get drink. This is as outwardly. We are suggested if we still single up till now, don't just sit, pray and wait for God. We need to make something. Go to the place where normally many young man and ladies e.g Ministry, church and Christian event. Find Christian friends there, get involve in ministry. Don't expect God to drag our leg and pull us to where many ladies are.

Well also referring to inwardly. When Jesus sit at the well talking to the Samaritan lady, after talking Jesus feel satisfied and Jesus also said, who drink from me will be satisfied. Inwardly, drink from the Well of God, which is to come to Him. Enter to God's rest. Pray for "Cara", pray that God guide us to decide and tell us which one to choose rather than depending to dreams, signs and prophesy for other people. TAKE A CHANCE!! MAKE OUR STEPS.

Hope this will help us all and give us some advice. :) Thanks for your time and please do comments and don't hesitate to ask for more. GBU All!!